That’s right…I’m a couple of weeks into my 35th year and it kinda hit me in the face like a brick. Where the hell did 35 years go? Having said that, they say with age comes wisdom, kindness, confidence, and ease, so here are 35 things I’ve learned at 35, and some of them have definitely surprised me…
Throughout my life, there have been huge milestones and some spectacular failures. I hope you can agree that the lessons we learn along the way leave imprints on our minds and souls. They touch us and challenge us to become better people and discover who we really are.
It stands true that focus is imperative as you strive to do whatever it is in front of you to accomplish – but focus can be just as much of a hindrance as it is a necessity. Focus too hard on one specific goal, one particular something, and you may just miss out on a whole world of other opportunities. Things change, and priorities shift.
Unoriginal but true. My children have singlehandedly sucked every last ounce of energy, humour, intelligence, and composure out of me at times (actually most of the time), but in return I have been filled up many times over with a love so strong, so fierce and so unconditional that nothing can compare to it.
Life gets harder as an adult and you need to be able to count on people. Especially when the proverbial s*it hits the fan. From my personal experience, less is unquestionably more when it comes to friendships.
That’s it, you heard me right! In theory not caring what others think is easy but putting it into practice is hard. Granted, it is part and parcel of human nature to ponder “I wonder what they truly think of me” and with todays online world and being subjected to the mercy of trolls that worry is quite often exacerbated. However, It‘s vital you do not allow others’ opinions to cloud your own judgement, ruin your morale or STOP you from doing what it is you love.
When you are so hungry you are angry! Nothing sounds good to eat and life is crap and the people around you, you could possibly murder because you are in such a bad mood from low blood sugar! If you need further proof that “hanger” is a legit emotional state, the word was officially added to the Oxford Dictionary…so there.
Not everyone is meant to stay in your life forever. That’s right. Sometimes they are only there long enough to teach you the lesson you needed to learn. Not everything is supposed to become something beautiful and long-lasting.
Travel is probably the only thing you can buy that makes you richer. Traveling is the best way to get out of your comfort zone and it invites you to experience life in different ways. Travelling fundamentally transforms you as a person, but it can give you time to heal, and help you regain or recharge enthusiasm for life. I haven’t been everywhere…but it’s on my list.
The one simple thing you can do everyday to maintain your youth. That savage tan might be sexy now but wrinkles on your face, chest and hands when you’re in your early forties are not. Thanks for the advice mum.
Think about that for a moment. Profound isn’t it? This quote from Steve Jobs has always struck a chord with me. As you contemplate scary transitions in your life, from personal to work changes, evaluate the risks carefully, and consider your decisions thoughtfully. “You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. Because believing that the dots will connect down the road, will give you the confidence to follow your heart, even when it leads you off the well-worn path. And that will make all the difference.”
No one is perfect and no one has it all. And, even if we could be perfect, it wouldn’t get us to where we really want to go. Wish your life was perfect? I honestly don’t see much fun in that. What would there be to strive for, aspire to and continue to evolve into the very best version of you, you can be.
Sometimes we all need a slice of cake to go with that large glass of wine. Am I right? The point is it’s probably not a great idea to repeat this process every day, but the occasional treat isn’t going to kill you. Unfortunately we do live in a world of extremes where moderation and balance can seem dull and boring and we seem to constantly flit between strict discipline and over indulgence, the key is to find that balance where a little bit of both can be enjoyed in blissful moderation.
If you’ve read some of my previous posts, you’ll know how much a fan I am of “Self worth” & “Self Love”. It doesn’t mean you’re some self centered, big head with ideas above your station. What it actually means is your potential to achieve what you most desire is directly related to your self esteem. The best project you will ever work on, is you!
Good sleep is critical. End of story. It’s just as important as a healthy diet and taking regular exercise. For years I’ve had nights of broken sleep, burning the candle at both ends with late nights and early mornings that have left me on the periphery of exhaustion. The bottom line is you need sleep to function, and your brain and body need time to repair. Give it what it needs and it’ll repay you tenfold.
Yes, I’m at the age of 35 and I’ve still not quite grasped this one! How bloody simple and effective it is to keep your body hydrated yet I still struggle to get the recommended intake in me before the day is out. When you don’t have enough water, dehydration comes out to play and when you’re dehydrated, you’re never going to be performing your best.
It’s so easy to focus on where you’re going rather than understanding how important it is to enjoy the journey in the present moment. Knowing the difference between pushing and hustling on your goals and taking inspired action is of paramount importance. Putting this into everyday practice is essential.
The person who says they’ll only eat one slice of pizza when you’re putting in the order is actually the one you have to watch out for. “I’ll just have one little piece.” NO YOU WILL NOT, YOU ARE LYING TO ME!
Why? Because laughter really is the best medicine! Life is just better when you’re smiling.
SMILE THE SHIT OUTTA EVERYTHING!
You can present people with opportunities but you cannot force them to take it. You can show someone how to do something, but you cannot make them do it. The point being, you’ve done your bit, so don’t dwell on the rest… rest easy in the knowledge that you tried your very best.
Chapters end and new ones begin. It’s not about one event, it’s the overall story you’re telling. Remarkably, I’ve found life does go on. Sometimes I wanted some chapters to end too fast, instead of savouring the moment. But my goal is to craft each chapter so the story just gets better and better.
You don’t have to be a ‘runner’ to run. You don’t have to be a ‘writer’ to write. Screw labels and do what you love.
Appreciate the leggings-are-trousers trend for as long as you possibly can. Because you’ll never know the good you had right in front of you until it’s gone.
The same exact thing can happen to multiple people, but each person’s individual perspective on life determines their own reaction and how much they choose to let it impact them, life is so much easier when we choose to think positively and expect only the best.
Life works best when we are there for those who fall down. And bwithout doubt, we all fall down, eventually. So when you can be that person for someone else, be that person. Do one small thing, or one big thing. But do a thing. It comes back to you, I promise.
Even if you do it once a year…pay it forward. Do something totally out of the blue and overwhelmingly kind. Pay for that car behind in the drive-thru at Costa and drive away knowing you’ve done something out of the goodness of your heart.
It really is as simple as that. I’ve been on both ends of this spectrum and this I know from experience: the way others treat you is just a reflection of how they feel about themselves — sometimes they justify it, sometimes they blame it on others, and sometimes they don’t even know they’re doing it. I still take way too many things personally, but I remind myself of this daily.
My good friend taught me the art of this. Thank you Michelle! I was always the one too afraid to ask because the fear of rejection was so strong. The key here is to remember if we don’t ask, the answer will always be an automatic no.
The world moves fast and quickly and time is something we can never get back. The years fly by. It’s important to be content with every area of your life — the things that are bothering you now, will they matter in five months? Five years? Look at everything in perspective — the choices you make now matter.
You get up and watch a youtube tutorial. Consuming. You scroll through your Insta feed at morning, lunch and afternoon break. It’s consuming. When you get home, you switch on TV, check your insta…again, and work on your next blog post. Consuming, consuming, creating. See where I’m going?
If you learn from everything that happens to you, you will discover that there is no such thing as mistakes, only lessons to be learned.
Use the nice sheets, scoff the posh chocolates and burn the expensive candle. Always waiting for that “perfect moment”? Nope! Enjoy it now!
The law of attraction works in all that is good and also in all that is bad, and it’s only up to us whether we choose to focus our attention on the negative or on the positive. Focus your attention on the many great things you have and you are grateful for, and you will see that the more you do that, the more reasons you will have to express your gratitude for.
Having plans is great, but most the majority of the best things in my life were not planned for. Stay flexible.
This is a mantra that I use to break my overthinking, procrastinating pattern. It is a truth that I have resisted for so long in order to maintain my crazy perfectionist lifestyle, but like all little life truths, it makes your life infinitely easier once you just accept it. As I previously mentioned, there is no such thing as perfection!
Sometimes a good cry, a hard nose blow, a hot bath, and a dirty vodka martini is all you need.
And on that note, I think that about sums up 3 decades of my wisdom! I’d love to hear yours!